You’ve heard it before, it is everything. Have you ever pondered the thought of why it is so frequently stated that what you believe, you’ll ultimately attract? The laws of attraction, positive karma, blessings? Or even negative outcomes, unfortunate events, etc… Only to realize, it all comes back to one thing: one’s perception and how they manage it.

As a child, you’re filled with innocence and purity, having little to no hardships. When you slowly begin to evolve into adulthood, you’re faced with a number of challenges. As we hurdle through each obstacle, whether it be big or small, it becomes solely our responsibility in how we choose to handle each given circumstance. Our perception: how we react and our determination of the given scenario along with our expectation of it. As individuals, we’ll usually react with an emotional response. Some of us may suppress it, while others may overly succumb to the emotion at hand. So how do we regulate our emotions in a healthy manner?

You must learn that there is no such thing as a perfect life. Begin to accept that not everyday will be ideally perfect and that life is in fact made up of the ups and the downs, not merely the ups. There will be moments that will lag more than others and days when you feel like you just can’t. When this happens, be mindful. Allow yourself to sit with those feelings that may make you feel uncomfortable and know that just like any other, this moment will also not last forever.

Trust in the Vibe

Energy doesn’t lie.

Ever been in a situation where your intuition is signaling one thing, but you go against its warning? How did that end up for you? I’ll guess, probably not as you had hoped. Perhaps you found yourself self-pitying once things got sour. Now, have you ever been in a situation where you were presented with that bad energy and decided to steer clear? That choice probably served you damn right.

If you’ve ever had to question whether or not someone should be a part of your life, the answer is within the question itself. If the concern ever persists, there is usually always a reason. Trust the vibe and cut the imaginary chain. Life is too full of unbelievably good energies to allow anyone or anything to eliminate you from having it; And good vibrations will always follow good vibrations.

Who are you? 

As I configure my quarter century crisis, I always tell myself I know almost everything that I want in life and although the resources are not always at arms reach, the goal is very much possible. I suppose you can say modern aged women are placed with a tremendous amount of pressure before they reach their twenties. By the age of twenty, you should have it all figured out and you need to begin putting it all together throughout that decade you have coming along. Great. I once recall having a conversation with a woman twice my age. She was seemingly lost. Her entire life had been swept from under her feet. She had initially established it all in her twenties. From the ground up, she made a business and a family alongside a wonderful partner. That’s who she was. A business, a mother and a loving partner. Nearly a decade later, she had lost her business and her partner. Her maternal instincts never vanished, but she had. Without two important factors which made her who she thought she was, she was utterly and completely lost. Years after the hardships she faced living with the missing gaps, here we were. Her face, lost as that of a child who had been placed in the world far too early to fend for themselves. I simply turned to her in our discussion as she expressed how empty she felt and I said, “well, what do you like to do?”, assuming that keeping busy with daily activities will create some life inside of her again. She looked at me with the most frightened and blankest of stares. As if she had just seen a ghost. The thought of getting to know herself and who she truly was, was the most terrifying idea for her. Everything she knew to be was what her past included. She no longer had that. She had spent the next couple of years of her life merely existing. How unfortunate this was. A beautiful, intelligent woman with no idea who she was. She had allowed factors in her life to determine who she was. But that wasn’t who she was at all. This made me wonder. Are many of us guilty of this? Do we let the people in our lives sometimes control us to believe we are someone we aren’t? Do we live a life of content and not true happiness just to say we have it all? I immediately recognized, I was terrified of that idea.