You begin to have a broader, clearer view of what is real once you diminish the clouded fantasy within your own mind. Your expectations and timeframes become just that. An expectation that once led you to disappointment and a timeframe that likely derived from some kind of social standpoint and was quite honestly somewhat unrealistic, because in all honesty not all two lives are the same. When you step back from the position of wanting to be in full control, the pilot to this inexplicable life, you realize the only certainty is in this: there is no saying how and when things will turn out for you. YOU solely have control over today. Here and now.